In Vitro Fertility Goddess

Unhelpful Comments from family & friends

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A guide for relatives, friends and acquaintances who wish to remain relatives, friends and acquaintances:

1. Just relax and it'll happen

2. It (the miscarriage) was meant to be

3. Have you tried having lots of sex?

4. You're trying too hard

5. You just have to try harder

6. Forget about it and it'll happen

7. You've left it too late

8. Don't panic

9. I told you that you should have started earlier

10. I can't imagine what it's like but then I fell pregnant first go with all four of my children

Further explanations that may be necessary for R, F and A's that still don't get it.

To make a point let's substitute the struggle to conceive with the struggle to pay off a steep mortgage, with a few alterations to the above comments.

1. Just relax and it'll happen

2. It (the large mortgage) was meant to be

3. Have you tried earning lots of money?

4. You're trying too hard to pay it

5. You just have to work harder

6. Forget about it and so will the bank

7. You've left it too late - you'll never be debt-free

8. Don't panic even if your house is repossessed

9. I told you you should have bought a house earlier

10. I can't imagine what it's like but then I own four houses and have mortgages on none of them

Jodi Panayotov