In Vitro Fertility Goddess
"If you can manage to poke fun at something,
you diminish it.
You may not always win but will never feel defeated."
Jodi Panayotov
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Hi, I'm Jodi Panayotov, a self-professed "IVF Goddess" and "21st Century Woman" who's still struggling to make sense of everything from my husband's sock drawer to the invasion of Iraq by the ‘Coalition of the Willing', to why it was easier to meet a Beatle than conceive a child. Amongst the myriad of things on this site, some light-hearted some serious, you'll find a Forum, up-to-the-minute News and Exclusive Articles on: Miscarriage IVF Infertility Fertility Herbs Pregnancy And do have a look at In Vitro Fertility Goddess my well received book which details my own misadventures on the speculum-strewn path to having a child. Purchase of IVF Goddess also includes a Free Copy of Stacey Roberts aka "The Baby Maker's" ground breaking book 'Herbs and IVF' valued at $29.95. Find out more here » 
Fran Kelly, Presenter ABC Radio National “Breakfast”"In Vitro Fertility Goddess takes the indignities and disappointments of infertility and turns them into a touching, achingly-funny journey into eventual motherhood. This is much more than a story of baby-making: Jodi has produced a page-turning, laugh-aloud adventure story."
In Vitro Fertility Goddess Book Excerpt Have just been on another infertility site with other equally fanatical women, if nothing else it's good to know others have obsessive infertility compulsive disorders. And equally reassuring is that relative to many of them I am actually quite sane. For instance, have not got M on brazil nut and green-leaf tea diet whilst alternating placing of penis from left to right in silk boxer shorts then expecting him to impregnate me when I'm hanging upside down in batlike fashion from a beam that I had him install in our bedroom. How women on these sites endlessly discuss all manner of bodily fluids in micro detail, their entire sex lives with partners etc. is truly amazing. Men would never go near them again if they read this stuff. Imagine if with every Playboy centrefold instead of saying: ‘I like to rub myself nude against a man whilst wearing only a collar and Blahnik stilettoes by an open fire. Once I made love to three men at a time doggy-style behind a sand-dune' they said: ‘When I ovulate I produce a lot of egg-white stringy mucous, this is when I'm most fertile but men find it a turn-off when it goes pasty and yellow and smelly during my luteal phase. I love my nipples as they have blue spider veins on them when I have PMS but don't come near me then as I fart a lot and get crampy and bad-tempered.' …. Back at work after the failed conception trip to Paris, one thing I seem unable to avoid is Fertility Goddess workmates. There used to be one on a flight per week, but all of a sudden there seems to be at least one on every flight. Is like lambing season in the air, with protruding stomachs wherever you look. The main culprit (besides the husbands) is the Olympic Games which are fast approaching and nobody wants to fly during them. Girls have actually postponed/timed their families around the event to avoid it! And worse, they've succeeded. The joke is that the maternity uniform is actually the official Olympic uniform. Almost every flight I find myself working with a pregnant fertility goddess and the most annoying attribute is their perception that because they are glowingly pregnant everyone else must be pregnant or at least trying. Worse, the ones who know I've been to Paris get all ‘nudge, nudge, wink, wink' with me, throwing meaningful glances at my stomach and making comments like "Oh Paris is the city of lurve. My friend went there and it was so romantic she got pregnant!" What do they think, the sight of the Eiffel Tower and all that Haussman architecture turns you into rabbits bonking day and night for weeks on end? And, like women in the newly engaged state who are incapable of discussing anything but wedding dresses and engagement rings, these pregnant women are incapable of talking about any topic save for ultrasounds and baby names. Is totally excruciating! This morning I was on the end of a trolley with one such girl and by about halfway through handing out the trays, was practically at the point of forcibly opening an aircraft door mid-flight and getting self sucked into the upper atmosphere. The morning sickness, the cravings, the veins, on it went. Then she interrupted herself to throw in, ‘Oh, what about you then? You've been married for years now, when are you going to have a baby?" With every bit of self-control I could find, I stopped myself just in time from inducing an aisle birth by way of trolley. "Actually I just lost one, miscarriage, you know." She went slightly green but it could have been her morning sickness. There, I'd said it. Shouted it, actually, at thirty-nine thousand feet. The entire rear of the plane simultaneously looked up from their turkey rissoles and this was strangely liberating. Back in the galley the no-longer-smug girl apologised and the other girls went all quiet and seemed to whisper for the rest of the flight. Later as we were leaving the aircraft a non-pregnant girl attached herself to my side and confessed that she too had had a miscarriage last year and I was the first person she'd told outside of immediate family. "What is it, why don't we talk about it? It's like there's a hidden code of silence or something. I've never in ten years of working here heard of one miscarriage. And I've heard all about every birth." "They're all proud of their births, nobody's proud of having miscarriage." "But we don't deliberately cause our miscarriages." What was wrong with women that they felt so ashamed to talk about their reproductive failings and so compelled to flaunt their fertility to each other? … Am off to IVF meet tonight, will be only 'single' there amongst other couples. These people are like the living dead, wandering from appointment to appointment, being herded here, shifted there, referred elsewhere then experimented on. Is like a bad Singles Club or tragic dating agency that have been forced to join in act of desperation. Am now officially one of them, being controlled by major outside force, having surrendered to it. No longer feel attached to society, walk around with cloudy film between me and them, the 'haves' and the less visible 'have-nots'. Another thing these couples had in common besides obviously having money was all were aged thirty-to-forty-something. Would be good characters for new show, "Infertility and The City." Could be based on number of couples who meet regularly at doctor's rooms, clinics, day hospitals etc., and none of them have sex as they're all over it, the women frequently have hormone-induced emotional outbursts and all wear expensive shoes/drive expensive cars. Only sex scenes on show consist of men masturbating in white rooms with glass containers and piles of worn centrefold magazines. None ever achieve baby as then show over would be over like when Sex and The City girls all meet husbands). Certainly is not case of "Yahoo, hip hip hurrah, here I am at the IVF hospital!" Oddly enough they served beer and wine as freebies and people were getting stuck into it as if we were all at strange bar somewhere. Unlike normal bars where patrons shout at each other, at this one everyone spoke in hushed tones. I had thought they wouldn't be condoning alcohol with people trying to fall pregnant but maybe they thought, 'oh none of them have any hope let's at least get them relaxed and happy, poor things.' Was looking around room thinking, which 70% of people here will be the ones who pay $3500 for the beer and wine they're drinking? We all sit here now in hope but a lot of us won't succeed. Who will walk away with a baby and who will walk away empty-handed-and-pocketed? Will I be a lottery winner or loser? Also the whole wine and cheese thing is a bit odd in this setting. Is a false social premise to make people relax and chat? If so it failed miserably. It's not as if we're here to meet new friends and partners. What do people at what is essentially an infertility club talk about? "Hi, pleased to meet you and what brings you here? Low sperm count? Oh, I see, the old polycystic ovaries. Yes the woman in red has the same thing - you should meet her. Hobbies? Oh, temperature taking, mucous checking…Chlomid? No given that away, got a bit hooked…"
Alex Bernard, Presenter Afternoons, 4BC Radio"I'd recommend In Vitro Fertility Goddess to anyone having fertility problems or thinking about starting a family…it's really a fantastic read!"
Michael Jacobson, Books Editor, Weekend Bulletin"…it's explicit, entertaining, enlightening and much more than a memoir. It's a love story, an adventure and a mystery. And just as their little girl was the gift the Panayotov's craved, IVF Goddess is another gift, one with a message for existing parents and the hopeful ones making their own difficult journey."
Carlie Jordan, Gladstone, Australia.What a great book 'In Vitro Fertility Goddess' is. I'M LOVIN IT!
Husband and I are going through second cycle of IVF and when told of your book I thought of nothing worse than having a laugh at this situation, but I was wrong. You are right in everything you say in the book and it is humorous the way it is written. It has made me feel a little better in that I am not the only person going through it as I know NO ONE going through the same thing.
I will definitely recommend your book to anyone going through this (when people actually start to talk about it) as it is not a shamefull thing. I think I am actually going to get my pregnant friends to read it as they don't understand what I'm going through and hopefully they will have a better idea.
Simone P., Sydney, AustraliaI just wanted to say I 'L O V E D' your book with a capital L. I myself have had 3 miscarriages this year and I am at it again for the fourth time this year. I don't know what I would of done if I hadn't of read this book because in a way it has saved me and slowed down the tears. No-one around me really and truly understood my pain but when I read the book I knew someone did - at last! You've got no idea how truly grateful I am Jodi to read your most deepest feelings about the horrendous memory or memories of miscarriage.
Thank you just doesn't seem to cut it but it's all I can say.
Naomi G., SA, AustraliaCan I just say that the book was hilarious - I literally could not put it down. I loved the funny and sarcastic take on those who are not fertility challenged and appreciated that the book gave me a chance to have a good old fashioned belly laugh about such a sensitive subject. Great therapy for anyone who is feeling a little sorry for themselves and needs to feel normal again!! I literally feel like I have ‘snapped out' of my self pity and learnt to get on with it!
I think Jodi has done a wonderful job to capture the frustrations and irrational thoughts that you have while struggling to conceive - and makes you laugh at yourself, and realize that you are not as crazy as you think you are, and its ok to think horrible things about ‘smug pregnants' hahahahaha. I am surrounded by them, everyone is in a baby boom but us, so I immediately felt understood when I ready Jodi's book.
Stacey C., OH.It's great to hear others tell their stories about IVF in such a positive way!
Sue, Brisbane, Australia.Jodi, you could have been writing from my own head. Very funny! I loved the book and am glad that I'm not the only one who wants to yell at pregnant women!
Now to Some Tips for Dealing with Smug Pregnants…
. 2. Introduce the dog in a gushing cutesy voice as ‘my/our baby' which will stop people asking the whereabouts or existence of a real baby. Nobody ever said to Paris Hilton, "Nice dog but when are you having a baby?" 3. Consider having a T-shirt boldly emblazoned with the name of your fertility clinic, e.g., Monash IVF and wear it. That way people will instantly know where you're at without asking or else they will ask about what it means and you can tell them. Either way you will be educating a group of ignoramuses and that can't be a bad thing. Also guaranteed to give instant immunity to birth/baby story viruses. 4. Arm yourself with phrases like "Of course for our next trip to Paris we'll be staying at the Ritz. It's far more convenient to those fabulous magasins (shops) off Rue de Rivoli, the ones where Katie Holmes shops." or "What have I been up to? Well in between learning mandarin, setting up my art studio and planning my volunteers trip to Nepal I've hardly had time to scratch myself." 5. If there is somebody who is particularly insensitive and rude, and goes on and on about their children and their pregnancy, organize to have a morning tea with people you meet at the IVF clinic. Invite the insensitive person and have them sit there while you all endlessly discuss injections, egg extraction etc. Exaggerate if you wish. Lord knows the fertile do. 6. If someone says, "So when are you starting a family?" simply reply, "Good question. I have no idea but let me consult my herbalist, fertility counsellor, gynaecologist, clinic nurse and God. If any of they can enlighten me, I'll get back to you." 7. In response to the oft and thoughtlessly repeated phrase, "Having children makes you less selfish," do not choke on your hors d'oeuvre or spit out your drink, as much self-restraint as this will require. Calmly point out that you find this puzzling because you always see evidence to the contrary. When asked what you mean, roll your eyes, laugh and say, "Where do I start?" before launching into how this morning alone you have been run over by two wide-bodied prams without apology, viciously cut off by an oversized vehicle driven my a ‘selfless' mother and at lunch your table and others at the café became a de facto playground courtesy of a nearby group of mothers who were busy enjoying their lattes in a selfless manner. Jodi Panayotov Latest News June 2008 NHS Denies IVF to Thousands of Infertile Couples Game Show Viewer Helps IVF Couple IVF Right for Gay Couples in Ireland Fertility Package: ‘Procreation' is the New Craze Male Fertility Problems ‘inherited' Wednesday 18 June, 2008 Source: American Journal of Epidemiology Researchers from the Aarhus University Hospital in Denmark looked at 311 men aged 18 to 21 and discovered that those who had the lowest sperm count and fewer normal-looking sperm were the children of parents who themselves took over a year to conceive. They found that men with sub-fertile parents had a 22 % lower sperm count and a smaller percentage of structurally normal sperm than men born to fertile parents. But the study was unable to establish whether the poorer sperm quality was related to inherited factors from the father, the mother or both. The study confirms pervious studies which have found that fertility problems have at least some heritable causes. If the findings of this study are confirmed and infertility is passed on from parents, it may lead to a significant rise in fertility problems as an increasing number of couple seek assisted reproduction treatment. Currently, almost 1 in 5 couples have difficulty conceiving in the western countries. Lead researcher Dr Cecilia H. Ramlau-Hansen says that the "genes responsible for impaired sperm production would normally be eliminated by evolution but assisted reproduction technology interferes with this force of selection, and the long-term consequences are not known." But she also acknowledges that her findings are based on a relatively small number of subjects and that further research would been needed to confirm the results. IVF Parents ‘Right' to Choose Sex of Their Child Male Sperm Collection Better Done at Home Free Fertility Treatment for Texas Couple A Successful Blastocyst Lies in its Genes Egg Freezing Technique Just as ‘Safe' as IVF IVF Babies and Genetic Problems Pre-Implantation Genetic Screening or PSG Discouraged When Life Without Children Is Not By Choice Woman's Miscarriage After Her Arrest Feminism's Silence On Infertility The Australian June 4, 2008 THE strategic silences of feminism are having profound effects on society. For all the brilliant choices ushered in for women - the freedom to forge ahead with careers, to stay single, if that was their wish, not to be tied down by family and babies, if that was their choice - feminism failed women by refusing to inform them that their new-found choices came at a price. By failing to remind women about their biology and their declining fertility, feminism deliberately ignored the innate desire of most women to have a child. The silence continues. It is there in the classroom where, like previous generations of young girls, the present generation is still not taught that fertility cannot be taken for granted. Fortunately, there are moves to fill in the silence about infertility. If it happens, it may allow young women to make more fully informed choices about work and babies, avoiding the sorrow that afflicted many of their childless forerunners. Unlike women in the 1950s and '60s, the liberated generation of women that followed in the '70s and '80s had the world at their feet. Yet feminism's mantra of choice made little room for women who chose to eschew careers for babies. If we are honest, feminism never had much time for babies. Having babies meant leaving the workplace, opting out of the career track, at least for a time. With its unwavering focus on encouraging women to make great strides in the professions, making their presence felt in the boardroom, the courtroom and parliament, the feminist movement deliberately ignored motherhood as a legitimate choice for women. The cost of feminism's silence about fertility is etched in the faces of those women who pursued dazzling careers and carefree singledom but ended up childless such as ABC presenter Virginia Haussegger, who a few years ago openly wrote about the price she paid for listening to the feminist mothers, who encouraged us to reach for the sky but failed to tell us the truth about our biological clock. Said Haussegger: "Here we are, supposedly 'having it all' as we edge 40; excellent education; good qualifications, great jobs. It's a nice caffe-latte kind of life, really." But something was missing. "I am childless and I am angry. Angry that I was so foolish to take the word of my feminist mothers as gospel. Angry that I was daft enough to believe female fulfilment came with a leather briefcase." The cost of feminism's silence about infertility is engraved in the experiences of those who, having delayed motherhood and unable to conceive, underwent in-vitro fertilisation at a great physical and emotional cost. Women such as Jodi Panayotov, who described how her mental anguish at not becoming pregnant had her rifling through her rubbish bin to check whether the second line on her discarded pregnancy test had appeared in the hour since she threw it there along with dozens of others. "If I thought IVF would be the answer to both my reproductive issues and my mental issues, I was mistaken. Yes, it produced a baby. But it took ages to recover from the emotional toll."
Infertility affects one in six Australian couples. While the causes are many, a woman's age is a critical factor. By age 26, a woman's rate of infertility doubles from one in 10 to one in five. By her mid-30s, a woman has a 15 per cent of becoming pregnant each month. By her early 40s, it falls to 5 per cent. Add in miscarriage rates of 25 per cent for women aged 35 to 39, and 50 per cent for women aged 40 to 44, and the rate of chromosomal abnormalities, which increases from a risk of one in 600 for a 20-year-old woman to one in 39 for a 42-year-old woman, and one realises that female fertility is not a given. Of course, with male infertility accounting for 40 per cent of cases, there is a need for both sexes to understand fertility. Unfortunately, there is a profound gap between perception and reality. A study by the Fertility Society of Australia in 2006 found that 57 per cent of women in their 30s and 43 per cent of women in their 40s believed they would be able to conceive without any problems. The survey of 1200 women and 1200 men found that 40 per cent of childless men and women in their 30s were still saying they were not ready to have a child. While choosing to marry later and have babies even later may fit the career choices of young men and women, the report concluded that "a real tragedy could occur if these people reach their late 30s and decide they have changed their minds and do want children, only to find that it is biologically too late for them". The FSA recommended an education program informing young people about their fertility. Last week, a similar plea was made in Britain by new Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority head Lisa Jardine. It is a message echoed by Candice Reed and Rebecca Featherstone, two young women who call themselves "IVF-lings". Reed, a journalist in New Zealand, was Australia's first IVF baby, born in 1980. Featherstone, a Sydney agent for media personalities, was conceived in Bourne Hall, Cambridge, where Louise Brown, the world's first IVF baby, was born. In the next few weeks, Reed and Featherstone will be sending letters to state education and health ministers across Australia asking that schoolchildren be taught about fertility and IVF. Featherstone told The Australian students were not receiving enough information. "The only things I was taught at school were about sexual education, condoms and STDs, that sort of stuff. I never learned anything about infertility or how many people go through IVF. I was never taught how a woman's fertility decreases." Ask a schoolteacher. Nothing has changed. Featherstone says it's critical that young girls learn about their biology. "They may hold off having babies and do the career thing. And then they're like: 'Oh no, I'm 35 and I'll have to do IVF.' She says IVF shouldn't be treated lightly as a fallback position for the next generation of career women. "It's not something nice to go through." With studies showing that mothers in their late 30s and 40s who have baby girls are perhaps compromising their daughters' ability to have children, the trickle-down consequences of infertility will be profound and many of them yet unknown. One thing is clear. For all of feminism's focus on women's choices, its failure to treat motherhood as a legitimate choice did women no favours. IVF Success Rates ‘Too Low', Fertility Expert Infertility in Canada: An Issue for the Young Too Infertility: The Lessons That Come Too Late When is it too Old to be a Mother? New Pill to Boost Male Fertility IVF Used as Fertility Safety Net Infertility Education Call for Young Children Monday 2 June, 2008 Children should be taught in school about infertility as well as about avoiding pregnancy, according to the new head of the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority in Britain. Lisa Jardine believes too few young people realize the difficulties they could face in trying for a family later in life. She also wants to youngsters to understand how obesity can impact on their future fertility. "You've got to start it at school. If one in seven of us in the modern world is going to have problems with infertility then instead of all the teaching at school being about how to stop getting pregnant someone had better start teaching about how you do get pregnant, because there are going to be a lot of extremely disappointed people out there." She adds: "I think male fertility is way down. There are probably all sorts of ecological and environmental reasons why we are less fertile. I think we could take that opportunity to talk about what happens if it isn't easy. In other words, it would make it less of a dreadful threat if you did not get pregnant." Recent figures from the HFEA show that more than 32,000 women a year get fertility treatment, leading to more than 11,000 births. Studies have shown that female obesity dramatically lowers the chance of conceiving and raises the risk of serious complications during pregnancy. The British Fertility Society issued guidelines to IVF clinics last year advising starting treatment on severely overweight women only once those women had cut their body mass index to below 35. Women under 37 years should cut their weight further, to a BMI of less than 30, the guidelines stated. A woman with a BMI above 35 was half as likely to get pregnant as a woman whose BMI was less than 30. Some experts believe obesity could be a factor that will drive one in five couples to seek fertility treatment within a decade. Jardine wants more widespread knowledge about fertility treatment. She said clinicians can be surprised to find women are unaware of what IVF entails. Yet treated women will probably not be able to work and need daily injections. "They will be given chemicals that disturb their hormonal balance, possibly permanently … they have scans that are intrusive and surgical procedures that are thoroughly invasive, and, at the end, if lucky, get a baby." Jardine believes there should be more open discussion also on scientific research involving embryos. … May 2008 Doctors Refuse Fertility Treatment to Same-Sex Couple Wednesday 28 May, 2008 Can fertility doctors deny IVF to lesbian couples based on their religious beliefs opposed gay relationships? That's the question the California Supreme Court is having to grapple with after a same-sex couple sued two doctors who refused to provide them with infertility treatment in 1999. The fertility doctors argue they have the constitutional right to refuse treatment because of their religious beliefs. Their legal argument pits religious freedom against state and federal constitutional laws banning discrimination. The case comes only two weeks after the state ruled the ban on gay marriage to be unconstitutional. And with the Supreme Court being mostly reluctant to hand down rulings which go against the tough civil rights laws for physicians who selectively deny treatment based on sexual orientation, there's a strong chance it will rule in favour of the plaintiff, Guadalupe Benitez. She was denied artificial insemination at the only clinic in her hometown of Oceanside that provided fertility treatment under her insurance plan. At the time, the doctors objected to providing the treatment because of her relationship with her same-sex domestic partner, but did refer her to practitioners at another clinic. Lawyers for the doctors, along with conservative groups, argue that the Court would set a bad precedent for the medical profession if doctors are forced to provide treatment despite moral and religious objections. They argue that it would trample on religious freedom.
After the hearing Ms Benitez, who has since had twin daughters and a son through IVF told reporters she is pressing the case to prevent others from being humiliated if they end up in a similar position. It appears the doctors are already losing support among the justices, including the most conservatives among them who questioned whether doctors can subjectively select which patients they are willing to treat based on religious views. Although the Supreme Court has not dealt directly with the issue before, in 2004 the Court rejected a similar argument from Catholic Charities of California, which was ordered to provide its employees with coverage for birth control despite its religious objections to contraception. The California Medical Association has not taken a position in the Supreme Court. The court has 90 days to rule. Jodi Panayotov … Men's Fertility Counts Too! Tuesday 27 May, 2008 When women prepare themselves to have children, they often start taking prenatal vitamins in order to boost levels of must needed calcium and iron which are essential to a healthy pregnancy. As for men, it's a different story altogether. The vast majority simply don't follow any pre-conception diet. Not that it's there fault. The fact is that the medical establishment focuses almost solely on women with no emphasis whatsoever on helping prospective fathers have healthy children. And given that men make up half of the child's genes and their sperm is particularly vulnerable to toxins (see latest news item ‘Painters at Risk of Fertility Problems'), this oversight is truly astonishing! And it's not like the issue is never talked about: the American Association for the Advancement of Science dedicated an entire symposium to the topic earlier this year, with numerous studies coming out since linking men's diets to sperm defects. But for some reason this information isn't getting through. Some will argue that it's the result of men's cultural reluctance to talk about their sperm because it goes to the core of male virility. Well if that's the case, it might be time for men to consider changing their mindset. Sperm develop over 10 week period during which men can enhance or at least protect the health of their sperm before they conceive. But the very nature of how sperm is produced means that men should prepare themselves well before that. Indeed, by opposition to women, who are born with a finite number of eggs, men's genes are constantly dividing into new sperm making them particularly vulnerable to DNA flaws. So for those men willing to listen to pre-conception advice, doctors would tell them to avoid heavy alcohol consumption, illicit drugs, give up cigarettes and start taking vitamins. This also means that if couples are having trouble conceiving, they should both get thoroughly checked by a qualified medical practitioner. Jodi Panayotov … Painters at Risk of Fertility Problems Saturday 25 May, 2008
Source: Journal Occupational Environmental Medicine. New research has found that painters and decorators are most vulnerable to chemicals found in water-based paints which can harm sperm. The study from the University of Manchester and the University of Sheffield published in the journal Occupational Environmental Medicine found that men who are exposed glycol ethers are 2.5 times more likely to have sluggish sperm than men with low exposure, Size, shape and quality of sperm DNA are other major factors that may be affected by chemical exposure. Dr Andy Povey, from the University of Manchester, said: "We know that certain glycol ethers can affect male fertility and the use of these has reduced over the past two decades. "However, our work suggests they are still a workplace hazard and further work is needed to reduce such exposure." However, this was the only chemical linked to fertility problems in men, and Dr Allan Pacey, a fertility specialist from Sheffield University, said that this would ease men's worries. "Infertile men are often concerned about whether chemicals they are exposed to in the workplace are harming their fertility. "Therefore it is reassuring to know that on the whole, the risk seems to be quite low." … Fertility Treatment in Britain: No Need for Fathers Wednesday 22 May, 2008 Source: AFP, Reuters The new laws were passed despite a bid former Tory leader Iain Duncan Smith to have clinics take into account of a child's need for a father and mother when deciding on treatment. The House of Commons voted by 292 to 217 to throw out the cross-party amendment. Under the new Human Fertilisation and Embryology Bill, women seeking fertility treatment will no longer have to take into account the role of a father figure. Instead, the rules will be replaced with references to "supportive parenting". The new legislation is the most significant extension to homosexual family rights since gay adoption was sanctioned. It will stop fertility clinics turning away lesbians and single women because their children won't have a father or male role model. While the current law does not block such therapy, it is sometimes used to justify refusals. In an impassioned debate members of all parties cast aside usual political loyalties to clash over questions of discrimination, parenthood and the very nature of family life. Iain Duncan Smith, told MPs that children who grew up without a father were more likely to fail at school or have problems with drugs and alcohol. He said: "We are saying come on, this is common sense. All we are saying is 'Take consideration of the need of a child for a father' not 'If you don't have a father you will never get treatment'. It's only considering it." Geraldine Smith, Labour MP for Morecambe and Lunesdale, said: "To most people outside this House you are just talking common sense. They would wonder why we are even having this debate. "Is there any wonder people think politicians are out of touch with ordinary people when we have debates such as this. It's nonsense to suggest that we shouldn't take into account the need for a father." But her Labour colleague Emily Thornberry, the MP for Islington South and Finsbury, warned: "I always worry when people start saying they are only applying common sense, because so often common sense is a cover for discrimination, narrowness and an inability to face the 21st-century." The veteran Conservative MP, Sir Patrick Cormack, said: "Whatever may be the case in Islington, in Staffordshire it's thought normal for a child to have a mother and a father. Do you think it is as normal for a child to have two mothers?" Tory Mark Simmonds said: "It is important to send through this particular piece of legislation a message to the country that fathers are important in the welfare of the child." His party's amendments were: "about retaining a male influence in a child's upbringing, providing a balanced outlook to society, " he said. … More News Stories: May 2008
1. Buy and carry an extremely cute puppy. As there are more dog lovers than kid lovers in the world you will instantly attract attention away from smug pregnants and their cute toddlers. 
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